Sometimes we ignore the red flags that are thrown our way. We hold onto the relationship hoping that if we stay in place for long enough things will change. The truth is more and likely the relationship will just not work out no matter how much you want it to.
It is important for you and your partner to face the fact that no matter how much effort you can put into a relationship if your partner isn’t doing the same or if you both are just not on the same page it makes it incredibly difficult for the relationship to blossom into something amazing.
Staying in a bad, unhealthy, or loveless relationship for a long period is obviously a bad thing, but so many people stay in them for so long. Staying in a bad relationship does none of the parties any good.
You both are only making it worse for each other and are limiting yourselves from finding something better. A relationship in which both partners can be happy and in love. One without all the fights, tears, and unnecessary hardships your bad relationship may entail.
The telltale sign that you may have noticed that your relationship just won’t work out can come in a lot of different ways. And some may be more obvious than others, but typically it doesn’t take much to realize that your relationship is on the brinks.
The moment you know the relationship is fated to flop is if you are just not happy. You question everything they do because it just annoys you to utmost and truly it will be the littlest thing that annoys you most. Now maybe it is something that has always bothered you, but you chose to live with it and now you cannot even hide the fact that it is eating you up inside.
Every one of their “flaws” becomes increasingly noticeable and you are picking at each one. Maybe even letting your partner know and getting into frequent arguments with them over the issues.
Sometimes it is mutual in that both of you think the relationship is not going well. Or it could be your partner who is not feeling it anymore or it’s you who is no longer invested. Of course, it’s easier to call a relationship quits when it’s mutual, but when it’s not it can be hard. Especially when you’re the one who doesn’t want to give on the relationship just yet.
Just know though that no matter how much you may want the relationship to work out, once a person has made up their mind there’s not much you can do on your end unless you are both willing to make the relationship succeed.
If your partner is willing to make it work but has suggested you both end the relationship go to a therapist to see why they don’t want to be a part of the relationship anymore. Going to a therapist won’t guarantee your relationship will thrive, but it will mean that at least you tried. Seeing a therapist could also help you in ending the relationship on mutual circumstances and understanding why the relationship didn’t function.
Just know that you don’t have to be in a relationship that is not functioning well. Ending the relationship will let the both of you move onto something more rewarding and enjoyable.